I want to preface all of this by saying that I'm not trying to air my dirty laundry or bash anyone in a public forum. I feel at this point like I could really use some advice because the people closest to me are just a little too close to the situation.
The story begins 6 years ago when my then 21 year old husband (who I hadn't met yet) was convinced by his stepdad to buy his childhood home. This was done on the guise of it'll help your credit and we will buy the house back in a year. Okay, fair enough. Josh is the kindest person I have ever met in my life and I know in my heart he did this to help his mom and stepdad out.
Fast forward to February of 2011 when Josh and I get engaged. I'm a practical person (at least I think I am) and thought okay I am about to get my Master's degree and we have no need for this house in South Carolina anymore since my original plan was to get my degree and move to DC (sigh, if only I were that young and stupid to think it would be that simple now but I digress). I was renting a house from a friend, that I loved living in and hated moving from, but all I kept thinking was why in the hell would I pay rent on a house when Josh has a home he owns??? So, we go to his stepdad on numerous occasions and say okay you can buy the house back right now or we're going to have to move in, fix it up and sell it. Josh's stepdad had been basically the rental agent on the home since, we learned over the course of this past year, he really just needed the house out of his name so they could take the enormous proceeds from the sale and open their now failing restaurant. Does it make me a bad person that I'm enjoying the fact that they're going to lose their business by the end of the year? If it does, I'm okay with that.
I could give more back story but I'm guessing it'll just end up sounding like a long winded tirade on my part. I'm only telling the story to emphasize that Josh and I really do have a legitimate reason to be angry. The house was a disaster and needs numerous extremely expensive repairs before we can even think about selling it. Think brand new air conditioning (ours is 33 years old), foundation repair and possible replacement, it needs to be rewired (yep, we live in a home that has original 1950s electricity...safe, right?) and the plumbing needs to be redone.
All of the above is why Josh will no longer have a relationship with his mom. We blocked her, his stepdad and his half sister from our Facebooks so they couldn't have contact with any of us. Turns out, his mom was still using someone to get information about Oliver which enrages me more than anything on this planet. She won't just suck it up and be a decent human being but she'll go on and on about how cute Oliver is and how much he looks like Josh?? Am I wrong for wanting to literally go psychotic about this? I am not lying when I say the woman has literally never laid eyes on my child in person in his 6 months on this earth.
I think what has sent me over the edge is apparently she knows about my current pregnancy. I don't know how because it's not Facebook official and, seriously, there is absolutely no way Josh's mom is smart enough to know about a blog. Honestly, imagine for a second the dumbest person you have ever met in your life and double that. That's about where Josh's mom fits on the intelligence scale. I'm not saying that because I hate her, I promise. I realized from almost day one that the woman is not an intelligent person and believes everything that is ever told to her. Ha ha, she thinks her family moved away as a child because her dad didn't like black people. Bless her heart, if she were to actually open her eyes she'd know that her dad was a crook and had to leave his town because he stole money as the clerk of court.
I know I've probably lost a lot of people by this point because this post is so long. I guess I just have to tell my side so I don't seem like a total brat who hates my mother in law. Now I need to know what to do. I'm so angry that my child doesn't have a relationship with his grandmother. Is this fixable?? What what y'all do if you were in my position? My mom does the whole wipe the slate clean route, which is fine, if it's just Josh's mom involved. However, she won't have anything to do with us without her husband and they will literally have to kill me for him to have anything to do with my children. Period. Help, help, help!!